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it is technically not her last game. she has two games on saturday but it is parents' night...

my parenting mantra is: It is not about what things you go to for your kids...it is all about the things you don't go to. They don't remember or carry grudges and wounds for what you do do it is all about what you don't do. When she is thinking about what a shitty mom she has as most teenagers do she will think--"that bitch couldn't even show up for parents' night. bitch."

You could always ask her what she would like. I know when I was in high school, I never liked "parents" night sort of things. If my mom had asked I would have been more than happy to let her go to a show, over sitting through another cross country meet.

Sorry Teresa, but you have to go to Parents' Night. Since Craig Finn's on the wagon, there's a good chance the Hold Steady will come back around, but this game won't. As eternally ungrateful as children are, she'll remember her mom ditching a concert to see her lacrosse game, and when she's older and less prone to fits of "thinking about what a [lousy] mom she has", she'll think fondly on that moment.

two votes for the game.

0 votes for craig finn and co.

i was going to call up someone and gave them the tickets but i got them as will call. my lonely abandoned tickets.

hold steady is up there on the music list for me, but when it comes to my son, i'd run in front of a bus for him. i'd do the game and parent's night. also if you're asking advice you may already have the answer in your head, you just need to be convinced that it's the okay thing to do?

For parents night, do they present her with the flower and stuff before the game? Because you can always go for that, leave, and miss the opening act. That way you can do both.

But if it really comes down to one or the other, I would say go to the game. FWIW, I've been in your daughter's place. At my last home gymnastics meet my senior year it was senior appreciation night, where they give flowers to the parents and gifts to the seniors. My mom, who had been to damn near every tumbling and gymnastics meet I was ever in, was unable to make it because one of my grandparents was ill and she had to go to Indiana to help out. I think she made it very clear to my father, who had never attended any of my meets, that he should be there or she would probably kill him. He came. I never think about the fact that my mom wasn't there because 1. she had a good excuse, and 2. she was always there. I remember the fact that my dad, who hates gymnastics and never went to my meets, was there. I love that night because he was there. I don't know what I would have thought if my mom had missed it to do something fun. I don't know. Maybe it would be the same thing, that she had been there so many times it was okay. Maybe I would be upset. I really don't know.

at the end of the game they have each senior girl stand on the field and then call her parents up and the girl gives the parents a flower or candy, people clap etc.

she has told me i can go but deep down she wants me there or so I would like to think.

her real dad can be really hit and miss and she doesn't expect him to be there. her step dad and i always try to make these things. plus we could drag her brothers!

4 for game 0 for hold steady.

come on thill. go with your daughter!

looking at the logistics involved with the show i don't know if i could really make the show anyway.

to the lacrosse game i go.

It's pretty remarkable when the advice you get from a music site is "Skip the concert, be with your family." And healthy, too.

maybe you people have it out for The Hold Steady.....

i did go and see Elvis Costello on Friday. I musn't be concert greedy.

did i mention it is rainy and about 45degrees out? yucky sit outside and watch a lacrosse game weather. But, she is going away to college 3 short months so i should probably go to all i can.

healthy indeed.

mog: the family friendly musical community.

This post warms my heart!!! I know id skip the show too, even though I dont have any kids and ADORE the Hold Steady!!! But if I had kids id skip the show. The pain doesnt end at childbirth!!!

You give me a coupla hours either (A) invent some sort of teleporter or (B) steal a Concorde and then I'll buy your ticket off you...but yeah, go to the lacrosse game

i think i am just not destined to see a show at the Intersection. My brother and I were just talking about Daniel Johnston last night on the phone and i just surfed the web to see what he was up to and it turns out he was at the Intersection on the 9th.

I have been listening to the Boys and Girls in America cd for the past couple of weeks in constant rotation to get ready for the show.

The last concert I couldn't go to because I had mom related duties(kid dehydrated and in the hospital with an IV) was Paul Westerberg. That was three years ago and I still find it hard to listen to Westerberg or the Replacements--the wound is still fresh.

my daughter is my concert buddy anyway. we had planned to go together.

if anyone wants to pretend to be me and go get the tickets in will call feel free. sorry jox no teleporters or concordes to offer.

Can I just say you moggers are totally warming my heart...you are brilliant; no show, please attend parent night. I played college basketball on the East Coast (from cali) and one of my favorite memories was in fact High School Senior night when I handed my super hip mom a rose. And I do recall a player or two who's parent was not able to attend; kinda sad.

everyone does feel sad for the kid whose parent doesn't show.

only one senior year and only one senior parents' night.

Now if this was a WILCO show she would understand.

Go to the game. When she graduates= it's all over. Forever.

I'm not usually a joiner, but you gotta go to the game. You are right about kids remembering the misses. I missed my 3 year olds "graduation" from a daycare, and he's 5 and still remembers. On the other side of the coin, my mom was a crazy sports fan in my high school years. I had a basketball game the day I got accepted to college and she rushed from work to catch it. After she arrived late in the 1rst quater, she ran across the court during a time out, broke into our teams huddle and gave me a big hug. Embarrassing then, but way cool in retrospect.

So how was senior Night?