MOG

he's a doctor. he is in residency so supposedly it gets better when he becomes an attending (in a year and a half). but you never really hear about doctors being around the house a lot.

oh, we have talked and talked and talked and yelled and yelled. (ok, i am the only one that yells and yells.)

It's an unwanted irony really that in professions like Doctor's, the time for such professional commitment is also the time for commitment at home. (i.e. early in the stage)

Perhaps suggest a specific regular time that's doable where the focus is on your relationship. A date night is what I'm talking about here, where you go to a movie, stay home, whatever. Whether that be once a week or once a month, whatever you can handle it would then give you something to look forward to. If he's willing to do that, and you're willing to put up with the coming year and a half, things could get better.

Don't you have laws about working those sort of hours?

Teresa - hugs from across the mogosphere - have you played that song for your man? Our medical system needs an overhaul - how do we expect exhausted interns to take the best care of our loved ones?

thanks for the hugs debi!

neill: the residency work hours is 80 hours a week. So, how does a resident work 100 or 90 hours a week? it is all about averaging. 80 hours a week averaged over 2 weeks. so if you work 90 hours one week but 70 or less the previous or next week all is fine.

Supposedly if you work more than a 12 hour shift it should be counted as on-call and then you are supposed to have rules kick in effect.

But....it is all self-reported. Residents report their work hours. You report them to your bosses. If you want you could report your program for work hour violations but that just means they will shut down your program or put your program on probation. So, if you report your program you are hurting yourself.

Neil.... silly, laws are only for those who can afford them, and this is how it works... what you have other commitments... well you obviously don't really want this job, so we are going to go for the guy who will let us exploit him....

That sucks. Hope it gets better soon.

lame

alas, i am lame and it is lame.

i like to think that today being officially "the most depressing day of the year" that I somehow jumped the gun.