WE DO THE MASHED POTATO AND THE FUNKY CHICKEN

For the once and future little girls...

Posted over 2 years ago
Part of my day is spent taking care of children. As some of you know by now, a very cool little boy named Colm used to grace me with his presence. His parents finished school last week, so he no longer would be coming on a regular basis. So here I was, bummed out wondering what shit job I would search for out there in the real world with my useless psychology degree, having decided that maybe I wouldn't look for another child to care for. Then I get a call the day after Colm's last day from a mother frantically looking for someone to take care of her daughter. Of course daycares have long waiting lists, as I'm sure they do everywhere. She had seen an old ad I put up in a grocery store back in the Fall. I wasn't expecting any calls at this point. So this week I met Cassandra. She is three and a half. As soon as we came in the door she spied my guitar and I asked if she'd like to hear me play. She was transfixed. Then I brought her upstairs and showed her my bass, and turned on the amp. She wanted to play too, so we started "making music", and she kept wanting to switch back and forth. She dug it. And she has an attention span, imagine! Then I sang for her. Now she is always asking to "make music", and asking for me to sing. Well, this is awfully heart-warming, to say the least. There are so many cool little things she says and does, all very poetic and touching. We also like to put my ipod on shuffle and dance in the kitchen, on the porch, where ever. She is a big fan of spinning around, laughing all the while. Today she demanded that I play my bass ("LOUD!")and sing while she spun and ran around the room. My kind of girl, unbelievably so. What kind of luck do I have? This afternoon we were dancing in the kitchen, but she wanted me to lift her up and hold her while we danced. We spun for awhile, looking at each other and laughing. Then Doll Parts came on. I slowed down and swayed, and sang along softly. She put her head down on my shoulder, and when we get to the "someday you will ache like I ache" part, I'm overcome with such a tender sadness beyond my puny words, thinking of the little girl I was, that we all were, ladies.I held her tight. We can never hold each other tight enough.

Comments (39)

  1. Dale says Aww, Cassandra sounds very sweet. That's quite a lucky break you got there. and isn't that the truth: we can never hold each other tight enough. Excuse me, I need to give Josh a big hug now.
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  2. colizzle says Give the little lady some Luscious Jackson, and maybe she won't grow up to be a basket case like Courtney Love...you can be happy AND funky AND rock out...
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  3. ookpik says Awww... I was always jealous of kids who had a Punk Rock Babysitter (I use this term very loosely, to describe pretty much any cool-older-sister type person). That's great, K. My contribution to the grand mix for young chicks is Mirah's little ode to gardening and afternoon delight. Lots of fun singing parts!
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  4. kristiana says Gee, colizzle, I dunno....since I don't know Courtney personally...and the debates about her purposes, image, etc. get so tiring...but to reduce her to simply a "basket case"...fuck that shit. And she's made some rocking and beautiful songs. I'm not familiar with the ladies you posted but it seems pretty generic and boring. Just my opinion, we all got 'em. No, so far our "happy" music has been The Breeders and Ramones. Though I'm open to all different styles of music. Personally I was way more impressed by the fact that Cassie heard PJ Harvey playing in the other room and started howling in time with the music. Do I need to put a little happy face here so that you realize my drawers aren't in a wad? ;)
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  5. kristiana says Ah, ookpik! Great little song there, thanks! And very appropriate! We've spent a lot of time in the garden this week too, but mostly looking for worms. Like I said, my kind of girl. :) But every day we are checking the progress of the flowers. And everything has become music for this little girl since coming under my spell, haha! Now the wind is singing, the river, our wiggling feet, our dancing is even a sort of singing, according to Cassie. My heart is melting, as you can imagine. The biological wristwatch is scorching, haha.
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  6. colizzle says Whatever, dude...just trying to look out for the future of the world...play her some L7 then...and you two can lie really still on the floor with your arms crossed... Demented and sad...but social...
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  7. ivylander says Just think of this as motherhood practice. Not that I'm tryin' to die you to any particular destiny, but you clearly have a gift for kids. Too many parents don't. Any kid would be blessed to have you as a mom.
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  8. goodmusiconly says geez, k, I didn't expect to get all misty when I read your post! nice. There's nothing more endearing than a cool little kid who has a spunky spirit, and it's so fun exposing them to the music you love, music they might otherwise never hear. I love playing The White Stripes for kids ... you don't have to worry about questionable content and Jack rocks the house every time. :)
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  9. kristiana says I know I know! It seems to me that music must not be part of life at home. I mean, she just seemed so thirsty for it, like a little sponge. Actually, colizzle, I'm neither demented nor sad, and listening to Hole does not make one so. And I don't have any L7, although I do love that Shit List song! Ivy....that means so much coming from you. Now I'm getting choked up, jesus, what have I done? Practice? Oh man, I have had my fair share of practice. There is a reason I've decided to work with children. It sure ain't for the money, honey.
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  10. Mike the Knife says Inspiring note. Keep on spreading the love, kristiana. It's all about fostering good things in the little ones...
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  11. Cody B says Sweet Story It is also nice when they go home,too,isn't it? I know that feeling from when I was an older cousin hanging out with my cousins kids. The tiny things they do and say. Now that I have my own critter, even though he is a joy, the quiet times when he's asleep, and the calm after the storm, are treasured.
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  12. kristiana says Hahaha, Cody! Exactly! While in a way I do want kids BIG TIME, another part of me really loves my alone time, I gotta say. T'is, Mike, t'is!
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  13. ivylander says My ten-year-old son still instinctively reaches for my hand whenever we're in a parking lot together. I can't begin to tell you how that makes a parent feel.....
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  14. kristiana says Your ten year old? That is so so good..... :) Doesn't surprise me.
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  15. ivylander says You definitely give things up when you become a parent. Fortunately, you tend to forget what they were....
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  16. kristiana says Indeed.
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  17. Dale says I gave up nothing. I traded in for better stuff. And it getting really dusty in this post, or is it just me?
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  18. kristiana says Dusty....? Is that a reference to age...? See here now, whippersnapper!
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  19. Dale says Settle down K, that's a reference to tear production. And let's not forget, I've got at least five yrs on ya.
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  20. kristiana says Oh oh, right....I can be slow sometimes. Yer lucky! Yeah, but I'm the one with the supposed clock....
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  21. colizzle says The 1950s called...they want their concern over biological clocks back... I assume you aren't an obstetrician... Hype aside, in this day and age, your kid doesn't have to even come from you...and if you do want it to come from you, you don't have to carry it...and if you do want to carry it, you don't even need a partner...and if you do want a partner, 32 damned sure isn't the age you start worrying about your biological clock...add about 15 years and then maybe you should get concerned about carrying it... In the short term, I think you should focus on not exposing the little ones to the train wreck that is Courtney Love... Just kidding on that... "Oh, Canada...da da da da da da..."
    Permalink posted 04/26/2007
  22. gerekriss says i'm Thai so sometimes i dont really get what you guys (Farang) are talking about. Different culture, mindset, whatever. Anyway, what i try to say here is this is such a lovely story...
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  23. kristiana says Hi Gerekriss, thanks for checking in, and thanks for the compliment. :) By the way, I love your country and miss it every day. I lived in Nakhon Si Thammmarat for a year. Colizzle, while in way I don't buy the idea that I should be feeling pressure at this point, at the same time I do know the risks which increase by age 35. And yes, I have also considered adoption, and foster children. But yes, I do also want to carry my own child.
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  24. gerekriss says That is so cool!, How come, lived here for year? Hey, if you have a chance coming over here again i'm glad to be yr guide...
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  25. kristiana says You know, the usual...teaching (Benjama). It was a great year filled with great people. My guide? great! Better, how about my friend? :)
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  26. gerekriss says Absolutley...PUNK-ROCK Teacher :)
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  27. kristiana says you know it! The Thai teachers sometimes questioned my methods (of course), but really couldn't say anything as the kids loved coming to my class and loved trying to use their English. Meanwhile next door another class is being grilled on grammar and hating every minute of it.
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  28. gerekriss says LOL. I'm no doubt. That is totally Thai culture. Thai teachers just dont get it (or dont try to get it) in the real world we speak rather than TYPE!. I, for example, damn suck in speaking.
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  29. kristiana says Your English seems very good to me! The biggest thing to get over is the shyness about speaking, about trying. That's why I always tried to make my classes fun and silly.
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  30. gerekriss says Fun and Silly class... ha ha ha - i really buy that. I just dont have a chance to speak English since my friends are all Thai. Umm, i hope we can have a chat someday...
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  31. Rawkkiddoh says Man this sucks, I get the notification for this post this morning and it happens to be one of my favorites. Kristiana, nothing beats the ability to share music with kids. Although I have never been able to play an instrument, 6th grade trombone doesnt count, I have done my best to share my music with my students. When you make a connection with it, there is nothing that can compare. I will be waiting for a posted mP3 of one of your jam sessions
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  32. Blue Meenie says Great post K. She sounds precious. I'm sure you'll fill her cup with many fond memories she will treasure forever. I'm with Kev.....let's hear a duet of you's rawkin' out! :)))))
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  33. Me and the Horse I Rode In On says This makes me happy every time I read this. Great girl and a great rock'n'roll day care place you're running.
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  34. RainaRain says Awww what a cute story. Great vid too, love that song!!
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  35. kristiana says Update: While Hole might seem like an odd choice...it wasn't my choice, it came up on random. And besides, she doesn't know what "aches" means, she just knows how it "felt" and liked the way I sang it. For the record. And then this morning, after watching me hang a swing on my front porch (the "womb chair", thanks Kathleen) and then cuddling up in it together, she asked me to go put that "girl song" on. Yeah. And then told me she wished I was a little girl like her, hahaha! Then I explained that while I'm a woman - a big girl - I am still a little girl inside. She agreed. :) Thanks for all the kind words, folks. Happy to share.
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  36. Dale says A Cassandra sighting! Aww, she's a cutie!
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  37. kristiana says Yeah, I figured it was appropriate. Yeah, she sure is! Would you like to see "the womb chair"? Hehe.
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  38. Stevie D says goodmusiconly - i agree whole-heartedly on the White Stripes - my guy (who is 8 now) saw the video for "Fell In Love With A Girl" (ya know, the Lego one). He asked me to play that video over & over & over...This was cool with me! He likes Fall Out Boy now, and soundtracks (am I turning him into a nerd?). When he was really young, I used to put on Jimi Hendrix "Are You Experienced", and he would do these crazy spastic dances. It is a treasure like no other. Kristiana, sounds like you are having an awesome time. Keep on rockin'. ps-I like that Hole song "Awful" - I think that's what it's called.
    Permalink posted 04/27/2007
  39. poebegone says kris, i love this post. little girls who are big fans of spinning around are priceless. after all's been said and done to Courtney Love, i really did love listening to Live Through This. my soundtrack contribution to your story would be Cloud on My Tongue from Tori Amos's Under the Pink. (The girl's in circles and circles and circles again, got to stop spinning...)
    Permalink posted 05/02/2007

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