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The Sadness of MOGging: A Surrender, An Apology, A Peace Offering

Posted over 4 years ago
I've just done something terrible, something I suspect we've all done at one time or another. I've deleted well in excess of 300 emails, some dating back over a month, all noting posts by my Trusteds. I've been holding on to them and swearing to myself that I would get to all of them at some point, but it's time to let that illusion go. I give up. For now.This is the part of MOGging that I don't like. Though I try to respond - or even just click the "Like" button - to every post a Trusted does, I just run out of time. My job allows me to read and comment, but not to access audio or video. Which limits the number of posts you can respond to. (The job has also been requiring more time than usual, and it's hard to see when that's going to end.) At home, there's always a lively competition for the computer with my daughter - in an attempt to foster the spirit of compromise, I surrender much of the precious remaining time I have in the day. And so the posts pile up. If you are one of my Trusteds, please do not take offense if I do not always comment on a post. I would if I could. We're all aware by now, I think, that most of our posts are not sent out lightly. Even if they don't take much time to write, we're generally offering a small piece of ourselves every time we share an audio or video clip, or toss a passing thought up to the neighborhood. I always feel awful when I see a post that has received no comments, or far fewer than its quality and care would dictate. None of us deserve to have their contributions acknowledged with a collective yawn. Despite the recent painful purge of my email list, I still held on to a handful of posts that seem critical to respond to. I am determined, for example, to sit down and really devote some time to dermahrk's Jules Shear series. Maybe this weekend....In the meantime, hope you like the Nara Leao.
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Comments (43)

  1. Lizziegreeneyes
    Lizziegreeneyes says Bill - oh sweet Bill... we've probably all had to do so at one time or another... I had 200+ this morning, got it down to 194... sure a few aren't MOG Brains... but this is by in large the email address I use for MOG & Multiply... think there may be a cleansing in my near future as well... not enough time in the day sadly !!!
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  2. Joxley
    Joxley says A problem I know all too well, Ivy.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  3. Anna
    Anna says Oww, don't feel bad. We all know how hard it is to keep up with all the posts and we all had to delete notifications at some point. *hugs*
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  4. Me and the Horse I Rode In On
    Me and the Horse I Rode In On says Yes. Sometimes we all need a break from this thing. No need to feel bad. It's been a few weeks since my last post but I don't have anything to write about,
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  5. nicki
    nicki says Ditto, ditto, and ditto. And even though I'm working from home now, it's still work. Even recently picked up CDs and haven't written a lick about them...
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  6. contrabandwidth
    contrabandwidth says Yep, I too run into that sometimes too. Depending on the amount of work and the new baby, I can only really peruse most posts. I hope to get back up to form someday, but I may have about 1 or 2 hours after the kids are in bed, before I'm ready myself.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  7. Cody B
    Cody B says I feel you,Ivy, especially the saving and the getaroundtuit thoughts...Sometimes a purge has to be made. Then there's balancing posting vs. commenting and trying to find new folks by trawling in recent posts. Also,I think the number of quality posts have increased, so it ain't so easy to skip..You are forgiven.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  8. Spike
    Spike says I have maybe 2000 Mog emails I haven't processed. (Sorry, guys, I'll get to them tomorrow.) Remember not long ago when David Hyman would post a YouTube just to generate a little activity from his brood?
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  9. soulrocket
    soulrocket says these last couple of weeks i have been able to cope with almost all posts that came to my mail. the main reasons are it has been raining non-stop for 2 weeks now and i did not feel like going out much, i dont have a proper job yet which leaves me with a lot of extra time and also i broke up with my girlfriend, so i stayed late by night reading more posts than i usually can handle in a regular day. in a nut, i had no life for the last couple of weeks and plenty of time to mog around. otherwise, it would be impossible to keep track of all the incoming posts. you did the right thing, ivy. do not feel guilty to have a life of your own. the sun shines again here today and i plan to come back to my own life too. mog is great but the real life is even better.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  10. Dale
    Dale says Wow, you've still been commenting on all your Trusteds' posts? I gave up on that ages ago; there are so many. I still read everything, but comment when moved to do so. Like now. No need to apologize; this is supposed to be fun, not stress-inducing.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  11. tybees
    tybees says I've also had to do that over and over again. No need to feel bad. There just isn't enough time, and I have never had the luxury of mogging at work which makes it even harder to keep up. I'm lucky to read half of what my trusted's post anymore.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  12. scotfree
    scotfree says uh-uh-uh soulrocket - what is real life anymore? Seems to me that this community is much more real than alot of things I participate in outside of Cyberia. Recently, we've seen folks leave here under strained situations that I refuse to dive into. Moggers I never even had the opportunity to interact with, yet I could feel their emotional farewells tug at the old heartstrings. And then, of course, our good friend Crash. You can't tell me that didn't affect anyone who visits with any regularity. Mog -is becoming- has become an important social interaction for me. One cool thing I've come to like about message boards is the mind to mind interaction. More rewarding than most face to face conversations. So what is reality then? As far as all the mog-mail, I went through that phase. It feels like such an obligation to listen/comment that there is some guilt when you hit that delete key. But it's not like throwing away a letter from a friend without opening it, it's more like a conversation over in the corner of the room that sounds interesting but you just missed it. Sometimes the magic's gone after the melee and there's not much point in responding. Some things, though, still look like an interesting read/listen. I've got about 60 or so in that category that I intend to get to. But, there's only so many hours a day that can/should be dedicated to any activity. Where's the snack bar in here anyway???Peace
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  13. I am
    I am says You thoughtless bastard. Your a jerk. Your off my trusted list and I will be sticking an ice pick up my nose to damage the part of my brain that remembers what you look like. Further more I will be purging your comments from all my posts in protest. Nah, not really, I am just to damn lazy to do all those things. Except the ice pick thing. That sounds fun. Your still a jerk though. And shit happens!
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  14. ivylander
    ivylander says Actually, can I use the ice pick line?
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  15. I am
    I am says You bastard, first you lose my posts now you want to cop my lines, Unfreakin' believable. Sure, just don't wear it out. My imagination is limited, so I got to hold on to the good ones.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  16. soulrocket
    soulrocket says scott, i guess that what i was trying to say is there is not enough time to comment on every single post i get on my mail, not if you have certain responsabilities in life... and i am not even counting the days i dont feel like listening or reading nothing at all. i concur i have better conversations here than with some of the people i know, but i refuse to become a cyber-geek. hahahah chris, you’re the best.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  17. Cinful
    Cinful says Dale said it exactly as I would've ... have fun, not stress :)
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  18. Lyrikhan
    Lyrikhan says actually, i haven't been able to receive notifications in months.....it's been quite liberating
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  19. kristiana
    kristiana says Whatever. We all know you love us. You owe no apologies to me, that's for sure.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  20. extraordinarypoems
    extraordinarypoems says I've got over 3,000 posts stored. I just keep tacking off a few each day, dreaming of a week when I'll go through them all. I actually did that over the Christmas holidays last year --- got completely caught up.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  21. Manju Girl
    Manju Girl says No prob and quite understandable; just keeping blogging your good stuff!
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  22. James12
    James12 says I think that happens to all of us, don't sweat it, peace out, and I liked the song, it wasn't bad....
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  23. Slicing
    Slicing says No worries, everyone has things to do which take up his/her time.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  24. I am
    I am says Bill I have to ask, Your not a member of the current Administration, are you? Cause losing 300+ emails sounds kinda professional.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  25. Augusts1
    Augusts1 says I've just gotten to the point of being very careful who I add as a trusted. If they post alot of stuff that I don't feel is applicable to me or don't bother to comment on my posts anymore they get deleted from my trusted list. Seems to keep things manageable for me.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  26. debi
    debi says I felt so much less stress when I turned off notifications - and instead used the Mog filters to read posts from my trusteds when I had the time to read and focus. As others have said, this is a wonderful community of friends - and more honest than many we all know in the 'face to face world'
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  27. darmuzz
    darmuzz says ivylander - didn't know we had two things in common - can't access audio/video at work and must share computer with lurking child. I'm lucky if I have an hour a day for Mog. So I Mog-Hog every Saturday morning and that's all the catching up I get!
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  28. chucky
    chucky says Ah jeez, I turned off my notifications ages ago. I couldn't keep up anymore - like Debi I just filter for my trusteds and then I get through as many as I can. Don't feel bad, because then I'd have to. :)
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  29. mickimicki
    mickimicki says ... I like Nara just fine, thank you very much... (and I have about a thousand, too.)
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  30. dachmo
    dachmo says Clearly there's a problem here and we're all kind of grumpy about it. I've thought about this in the past and I think the best answer would be that instead of the individual trusteds posts going to my inbox they should go to a separate trusteds page that MOG has set up for each user. We have our own page for our own posts and a separate page that all of our trusteds posts get sent to. I got home this evening after spending the day with my niece and nephew doing Halloweenie stuff and my mail box is just jammed with MOG notices, combined with my Multiply notices and personal eMail I'm counting just under 80 emails since noon. My main problems with all these notices though is that I never get to spend any actual time on MOG anymore like I used to in the beginning. I enjoy going to the newly posted's pages and meeting the new MOGgers that are coming aboard, I also immensely enjoy all y'all's company but at time's I feel we've all become a little clickish. I, for one, would love to open up my MOG account and be able to go to "My Trusteds Posts Page", that would look similar to the page that archives my own posts, and just scroll through those posts at my leisure. After I've read a post it can be discarded or kept I can save my favorites or ones I want to go back to later for the comments. It would make things a lot easier for me to do that than to sit and open each piece of mail, click on the link, be brought to the MOG post, find out it's another wonderful post about Radiohead, delete. Repeat. Alright I'm off to continue sifting through my posts and looking forward to it! (because I'm still happy to be here at MOG) Oh, and Ivy...I almost deleted this post before even opening it and I'm glad I did. Thanks.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  31. ivylander
    ivylander says That's an excellent point, dachmo. I rarely can find time to look at new MOGgers' posts. I need to find ways to break out of my comfortable group.....
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  32. dachmo
    dachmo says It's so hard to, without just dumping large amounts of posts each day. I have literally spent some days trying to catch up: I read a post, I like the post, I write a comment. Ten minutes later I get 2 emails in response to the last comment I made 1 from the poster and another from the commenter I commented after. Then a conversation ensues and I have to keep tabs on that post while I move along to another post. I do enjoy it but what a time killer!
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  33. ivylander
    ivylander says Don't we all know it!
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  34. Cody B
    Cody B says d-mo..and it's a pretty big clique,too. Yup, this here MOG is a time killer supreme.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  35. Mike the Knife
    Mike the Knife says Yeah, ivy. I know what you're talking about, and I'd have to agree with most of what you all (well, most of you) said. As it happens, I, too, am about 3000 posts behind (no kidding). But I love and respect you all (well, most of you), and will get to your words of brilliance and your well-chosen streams - and the next ones that come down the pike - as soon as I can.
    Permalink posted 10/30/2007
  36. dermahrk
    dermahrk says I've never turned on that option, because I scan all of the posts and only comment on the ones where I have something to say, whether trusted or not. It does take up a LOT of time, I must say, but at least I don't miss new Moggers who have interesting things to say and become trusteds. My cures? 1) I get into work 2 hours early (5 am!) and do MOG before I work. 2) I bought a second PC for home because of the competition with my wife and live-at-home daughter. And here I thought you just didn't like Jules Shear! Of course, this could still be true...
    Permalink posted 10/31/2007
  37. 2Serenity
    2Serenity says I have to chime in too because I can relate but I had to stop getting MOG emails because I could not keep up and come and give cheer when I can. So, just know that I do read as much as I can but I have to make $$ so I can buy these CDs! I appreciate your sensitivity to the matter.
    Permalink posted 10/31/2007
  38. dachmo
    dachmo says In the past week since this post originated I noticed a function on the MOG page I had never seen before. They have a link that allows you to only see the posts that your trusteds have added. Now either they did this after I went to great lengths in my first comment to describe how much better off things would be if we were able to have this kind of functionality available to us or I'm just a fool for not seeing whats always been right in front of my face. I've got a pretty long track record of playing the fool so I'd go with that last scenario. In case you've never seen it it's directly above the Magic Button on the left hand side of the screen. If that's not the case and MOG did in fact add that functionality hours after I mentioned it then I'd also like to suggest a button that drops £1 Sterling (the dollar sucks) into our individual bank accounts every time a song we post gets played. Who thinks that's a good idea?
    Permalink posted 11/05/2007
  39. The Time Machine
    The Time Machine says


    Please pardon the follow four words in caps...I FEEL YOUR PAIN.

    The email box displays 2478 MOG messages (yes - made a folder just for MOG emails) with only 769 actually read. There is that thought in the back of the brain that says "you will be able to respond to all of them" which is next to impossible but the emails pile up with each trusted MOG member posting another cool gem or insight.

    At first, it was the MOG servers slowing down the process but these days - MOG is moving along at a faster speed so it all boils down to myself and how on Earth can I listen to each song and watch every video posted? Choices...

    Still keeping the MOG notices in my email for that rainy day of which there have been a few this year. It's raining right now which is why I'm here posting a comment so that theory does work on occassion. *lol

    :=)





    Permalink posted 11/05/2007
  40. ROCKNROLLPIMP
    ROCKNROLLPIMP says i just recently turned my notifications back on now i'm stressing again OFF THEY GO....WITH YOUR HEAD!
    Permalink posted 11/06/2007
  41. ivylander
    ivylander says Deep breaths, friend. Like the man said, this is supposed to be fun....
    Permalink posted 11/06/2007
  42. ROCKNROLLPIMP
    ROCKNROLLPIMP says hahah I HAVE ALCOHOL it's all good!
    Permalink posted 11/06/2007
  43. ivylander
    ivylander says That can work just as well, if not better....
    Permalink posted 11/06/2007

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