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What to say?

Posted 6 months ago

....nothing really. My brother lost his battle Friday...and passed into whatever. A slow gruesome death. No way to die. No way to live. He's gone ...........


Comments (38)

  1. inrumford says

    I've lost my brother as well. The circle of life and all that. Hopefully they kept him medicated. it helps to ease the transition. I'd say my prayers are with you my friend but I stopped that futile practice a long time ago. I'll just send you a cyber hug. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>uh!

    Carry on my friend, that is all we can do

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  2. Cody B says

    Sorry to hear about it , man. Love to you and the family. I'll tell you, after losing my mother in law and going through a cancer battle with my wife, I have about had it with f'ing diseases. If you need anything, don't hesitate to ask.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  3. Cinful says

    I'm so sorry for your loss ... as IRF said, I hope they kept him nicely medicated. At least they're able to leave in a comfortable state of mind that way.  Doesn't help those of us left behind, but at least we know they were pain-free as they left us.   :(

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  4. dharmachris says

    Sorry to hear the news.  it never gets easier, it only, sometimes, makes it a relief on those still amongst the living that he is out of the pain caused by the disease.  Hug those kids!  I'm praying for you and yours.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  5. contrabandwidth says

    Very sorry to hear it DMDM.  Sometimes no words are the best of all.  I can think of nothing more fitting than a Harry Nilsson tune.  My thoughts are with you.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  6. Groon says

    Sorry to hear it. Thoughts and condolences to you and yours.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  7. BerkeleyBob says

    Sorry about your loss. Both my parents went the hard way, but so far my brother sister & I are in good health... Unlike some, I do pray, although I don't know the first thing about the Higher Power, but I will ask for blessings for you and your family.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  8. debi says

    DMDM so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  9. ivylander says

    This sucks, always. We are feeling you, friend...

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  10. Oatmeal says

    Really and truly wish you strength and love during this time.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  11. Zen Raven says

    Thoughts are with you.. 

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  12. TynansAnger says

    That is awful, I am very sorry to hear that. At least you had time to make piece with him; that's the one benefit of dying like that.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  13. Candara says

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    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  14. TynansAnger says

    That's possibly the most tasteless spam I've ever seen.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  15. Mike the Knife says

    I know how tough it is to endure such a loss, dmdm. My heart goes out to you and your family.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  16. ZZTodd says

    Sorry for your loss. Truly is a sad way to go, but at least he's not going through it anymore.

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  17. SerenityLife says

    Losing a sibling is something I have never experienced for I don't have one but I know God will give you the strength to help you deal in your time of grief. Know that we are here to support you and to know you are appreciated for all that you do. You are our extended family. Sending you all the strength you need to get through these next couple of weeks. 

    I'm praying for you and your family..

    Permalink posted 05/10/2009
  18. earthman says

    my thoughts are with you and you family, go well through this time

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  19. mitchy says

    Sorry my friend remember all the good things and maybe play loud

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  20. deadmandeadman says

    Thank you all. 

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  21. dermahrk says

    Jeff, this is terrible news. We're all thinking of you (ok, maybe not Candara and her big *BOOBS*).

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  22. Anna says

    Jeff, I'm so so sorry to hear this!  :(((((

    My thoughts are to you and your family. If there's anything we can do to help you feel a bit better, please let us know.

    May he rest in peace.

    *hugs*

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  23. deadmandeadman says

    Anna,  thank you.

    Mark....I'm afraid poor Candara & her *boobs* can't think of anyone else....I think she's got it bad.

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  24. darmuzz says

    I don't see lives as being "won" or "lost," but valued for what they are...I'm sorry you have to deal with this, and that his life wasn't longer and happier.

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  25. Jonh Ingham says

    Really saddened to read this news.

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  26. dachmo says

    Celebrate his life, his pain is over and I'm sure he's celebrating that fact somewhere right now.

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  27. marknavl says

    Very sorry to hear this, Jeff. My thoughts are with you and your family and I'm sure you can at least draw some comfort in the fact that his pain is gone. Think good thoughts and of good times in your past with him and appreciate them. I wish you the strength to cope. Be good...

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  28. MusicRX says

    Jeff, I will pray for you as you go through the grieving process- it's not fun and it's not easy. We recently lost my wife's step-mom to Alzheimer's. I feel for you and I'm sorry to hear of your loss. If we can cheer you up with some music, just let us know what you need to hear and we'll try to get it posted for you.

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  29. incurablyerin says

    my deepest condolences to you and your family.

    loss and change seem to be things with which our race has been designed ill-equipped to handle. i sure haven't gotten it down, yet. hell, i can tear up in the middle of the day just thinking of the potential and inevitability of losing someone close to me.

    you knew him, and he knew you. hold onto that.

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  30. deadmandeadman says

    Again,  Thank you all so much.  I feel you all.

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  31. I am says

    Buddy, nothing I say will make it okay.

    Just know I'm thinking of you.

    Jeff, I'm so sorry. I really am.

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  32. RSchaut says

    I presume the "battle" was cancer?  That's what most people mean.

    My gramps died of cancer.  I watched a healthy, strapping man, who, to me, was always larger than life, waste away. That was almost 30 years ago, and I still remember the feelings. First you feel relieved that the ordeal is over, and then you feel guilty for feeling relieved. And nothing fills the void that's left behind.  I still miss him.

    But, if he were here, I know exactly what he'd say.  He'd say, it's not what you say that matters.  It's what you do.

    So, if it's alright with you, there's a donation on its way to the American Cancer Society in memory of your brother.  It ain't much, but it's all I can do from here.

    Permalink posted 05/11/2009
  33. deadmandeadman says

    @ Chris...I know you are thinking of us.

    @RSchaut...Thank you....thats perfect

    Permalink posted 05/12/2009
  34. Spike says

    dmdm, that's terrible news.  He was lucky to have you as a brother.  RSchaut just inspired me to donate to the American Cancer Society also. 

    Permalink posted 05/12/2009
  35. capndad says

    You people are all absolutely incredible! Very touching.

    Permalink posted 05/12/2009
  36. SierraHurtt says

    i'm so so sorry for your loss. i don't think we're ever really prepared, no matter what the circumstances. all we can do is cherish the memories - good and bad - and be grateful.

    you and your family are in my thoughts.

    ~Sierra

    Permalink posted 05/14/2009
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  38. poebegone says

    oh, Jeff... ):

    i am sorry. i am sad. i have no words -what to say?- but perhaps telepathic hugs / clinking beer bottles / shared laughter / inside jokes / poets' poetry / lotsa love / being in the middle of Mekong River on an old tiny fishing boat for hours of sheer quiet / good music could make the hurting endurable.

    stay strong. you have us all.

    Permalink posted 05/14/2009

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