Boy, 13, 'Hanged Himself After He Was Bullied Online For Being A Fan Of Emo Music'

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A 13-year-old British fan of Bullet For My Valentine and My Chemical Romance hanged himself after being bullied on Internet social networking sites for his clothes and love of "emo" music and punk rock, his parents believe.Sam Leeson killed himself in his bedroom after suffering months of "sickening" abuse from cruel youngsters who bombarded his home page with offensive emails, according to the Daily Mail.Sam Leeson's family say the 13-year-old was picked on by othe r users of the site because of his 'alternative appearance' and his taste in music.Blaming the social networking site Bebo for his 'utterly pointless death', Sam'smother said the family discovered the extent of the bullying only when they checked his Web page after his death.??Sam Leeson, 13 years old.??'I'm not sure what influence these sites have - but if they are a method of expressing things, maybe they should be checked more,' said 45-year-old Sally Cope.'He was into his appearance and often wore his black skinny jeans. He was an alternative dresser and I think other teenagers did used to make comments about that.'Bebo users who taunted Sam on the site have since left messages apologizing for their conduct.Sam's sister, Emma, 22, said he had also been bullied at school over his interest in the music.'He used to laugh about it when people mocked him over his dress sense and music taste, so we didn't realise it was anything serious.'We saw him as always happy and smiling, but we now think there has been some name-calling about the whole Emo thing.'We know some bullying has been going on. We do not want to attack the school, as they have been very good, but we are very upset it has come to this.'Sam, of Tredworth, Gloucestershire, was found on Thursday by his mother, Sally Cope, and another sister, Katie, 12, when they returned from a short shopping trip.A short time before, Sam had seemed 'perfectly normal', answering the door to a friend of Katie, Miss Cope added.'He was such a loving boy. We all loved him very much and he was always telling us how much he loved us.'"Read the entire article from the Daily Mail.":CH
*What do you think? Are sites responsible for youngsters who get bullied and harassed?*
[CH]http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1025654/Emo-teenage-boy-hanged-bullied-internet.html

Comments (22)

  1. missedexit says Man, that sucks. Where's the tolerance? Hope those who bullied him realize that a life was lost!
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  2. Anna says Really sorry to hear this.....but the parents are blaming the internet...one day that one will get old. Wake me up when that happens.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  3. Jo says How very sad... Are sites to blame? Not for everything, but I did recently accidentally bump into serious security flaws of Bebo (even though I don't have an account there) which are unforgivable (particularly as Bebo seems so popular with very young people). Yet another warning for parents and custodians to watch kids online activities; not just to monitor whether they are being bullied, but equally to monitor whether they don't engage in bullying anyone else themselves.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  4. Joxley says That is horrific news. The sites aren't to blame, but they have to take some responsibility I feel... obviously the internet doesn't make bullying happen, but it does facilitate it - at my school they've already written into the rules that bullying by any technical means (sms email, whatever) is as serious as if it were face to face, and I know various charities have highlighted the issue.. although, as ever with bullying, the system only works if the victims report it.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  5. Anna says Exactly my point, Jo. Parents need to keep an eye on their children. Not to mention, that parents are supposed to know, if they pay attention. And not to get cruel and mention that obviously they did something very wrong in the upbringing. Of course, blaming the evil internets is easier than looking in the mirror. This matter always irritates me to no end.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  6. mothibi says what happens when they decide they want to monitor mog?
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  7. KoriLinc says Wow.. that saddens me.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  8. mullytron says I must admit I'm of 2 minds on this one as far as who or what to blame. Is it the other kids? The internet? His family? MUSIC?!?! On the one hand - - not to sound glib or flip - - but what could be MORE emo than hanging yourself? I mean, if you're going to go and announce your stated lifestyle or musical/aesthetic preference in public, whatever it is, you obviously stand to get ridiculed for it eventually, because people suck. So his inability to handle it suggests that this kid was poorly socialized and not ready for prime time, generally. But his family seem genuine and compassionate, so it's hard to blame them, they're just maybe not too plugged in to reading the signs. But then what parent isn't guilty of occasionally overlooking something their kid is trying to hide... Are children any crueler now than they have ever been? I have a hard time believeing that. But would this kid have hung himself if he was getting bullied in person instead of online? I guess if you're alone in your room with nothing to stop you, not even the walk home, then maybe this is a more vulnerable and dangerous situation that regular playground bullying. I just have a hard time saying "these kids today," and leaving it at that. So is the internet to blame? Seems like an easy out to me. You could just as easily say that it provides a safe place for emo kids to interact and get over their fears and insecurities. So why did this go so wrong? Hmmm...
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  9. daviddimuzio says One of the most interesting posts I've read. Almost sounds funny as a "Headline", but it's really sad at the same time. Very sad.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  10. Sturgell says I wasn't trying to be funny with that headline, but I guess it did come out that way.  Honestly, I can understand how the boy's parents would blame the internet. They're grabbing at straws, trying to make sense of this. They lost their little boy in such a shockingly sudden manner. Horrible! My heart goes out to them.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  11. dachmo says It's a sad, sad fact, but people of all ages (children included) have been committing suicide for centuries. It's not a modern invention and it's not brought on by modern inventions. For some people life just sucks and the idea that "Tomorrow is going to be a better day" is a load of BS. This Sam Leeson had something morose in him to begin with that drew him into the Emo scene and if the online teasing really bothered him he should have just signed off and gone to a different site so I wouldn't blame the internet either. The parents are just grieving and trying to figure out how come they had their boy in the morning and by that evening he was dead, they need someone to blame. If he walked out in front of a car driven by a kid blasting heavy metal they would've blamed both the kid and the music for taking their child away.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  12. trend says Unfortunate and sad. Why can't we all just get along? and on the flip side... isnt being emo all about being sad and wanting to kill yourself? Maybe I'm misunderstanding what all the hype was about (about emo itself, not the boy). I remember in highschool all the so called emo kids, their arms covered in ciggaret burns and razor knife scars... Still, it's a shame that things could get that out of hand. Music is meant for enjoyment! and should NEVER, NEVVEER be used a source of ridicule.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  13. Doomsayer2001 says Yeah... it's the internet's fault. Just like Judas Priest makes people murder and Ozzy's songs make people wanna commit suicide... well, there may be some truth to that last part. Heh.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  14. Sturgell says well said, Doom
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  15. Rawkkiddoh says This is where the teacher in me has to stand up and say something. I am tired of parents not doing their jobs, and not knowing what their kids are doing while on the internet. I am all for letting your child have his or her privacy, but at 13 should you be leaving your kid to browse around the web with no supervision? That being said, the kids who were on the giving end of the bullying should get punished as well. If there was no internet, they would have found another way of making this kids life a living hell and personally I am sick of seeing this happen in any school. I would go as far as to say the parents of the bullys should be held accountable as well, not knowing what your child is doing while on the internet these days should be grounds the courts to look into their parenting skills.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  16. poebegone says i have a similar opinion as Kevin/Rawkiddoh. how does one parent a child and be unaware that being bullied is never merely something any child laughs off without hurting inside? on the other end, how does one parent a child and be unaware that or tolerant of their child bullying other children? kids are kids, but parents have no excuse not to know any better. they were kids once so i don't think it's ignorance as much as negligence. it is especially lame to blame the internet. yeah, blame the gun / noose / pills, too.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  17. Wanbli says :( - this is a horrific tragedy I am also taken aback by some of the thoughtless and insensitive comments here. I think each and everyone of you, including myself - cannot understand the world of a 12-16 year old that has free reign in today's technological terrain. None of us had instant, mobile communicators with us 24/7 that kept us in touch with friends, web cameras, instant international infammy on YouTube, etc. I deal with these issues on a nearly daily basis- you could say I am a family Internet safety professional. I am Director of Operations for a very well known piece of software that assists in helping parents and reduces exposure of kids to inappropriate content online. I work on education, legislation and technology to help protect kids online, while maintaining the freedom of speech that we are fortunate to have. I talk to kids at middle-schools, I talk to parents and teachers. I speak at and attend CyberSafety conferences. I know Tina Meier, whose daughter Megan hung herself after neighbors created a fake MySpace profile as a pretend boy. I know John Halligan, whose son Ryan was bullied at every turn online in emails, IMs, chat, etc and ended his life at a similar age. They don't blame the Internet. Cyberbullying has surpassed sexual predators and porn as the number one issue facing kids using technology today. In Australia and the UK they have national laws against cyberbullying. States and communities are beginning to pass local laws all across the U.S. In order to speak to exactly what cyberbullying is and how is is radically different from past forms of bullying, I highly suggest you visit the Web site and read the incredible work of Dr. Sameer Hinduja or Dr. Justin Patchin. It is an incredibly vast and overwhelming subject IMO, that ranges from posting videos of beating someone up, to posting nude photos of a once trusted friend or loved one to the more direct and common form of text, chat, IM bullying. It takes many forms. This is a great public service ad that scratches the surface of the deeper issues relating to how kids easily step out of their personas online and say or do things they never would to someone's face When you bullying, insult or hurt someone in real life, you experience the reaction and as a human you empathize at a base level with the emotions of the bullying. In this situation you begin to understand (as a kid) the concept of actions and consequences. Child behaviorists believe that the ability to understand consequences doesn't begin until age18-20 Is the Internet to blame? Of course not. It is a tool. When a child of this age has access to a gun and shoots someone or themselves, is the gun to blame? Of course not. It is a tool. In both cases- involved and responsible parenting is called for. You know who the friends are at the house your kids go play at or go to the movies or mall with. You should know who their friends are online. Any and every living in a house that allows kids to go online at home, school, a friend's house, etc.and under should understand that they have 0 privacy in what they do online. Every thing they say, post, etc is archived and logged somewhere. Parents should be involved, check which sites kids are visiting, not allow Internet connections in bedrooms, etc. But even the most involved parent can suffer from the cruelty of man against fellow man I could talk and post on this subject for days... I will leave this topic with thoughts and prayers to Sam Leeson and his family. I also hope that those involved with belittling and abusing him, use this experience that will be with them forever to change them in a way that betters themselves.
    Permalink posted 06/11/2008
  18. contrabandwidth says

    Doesn't make up for the fact that kids are cruel, and always have been.  Remeber the movie or book "Carrie"?  What makes it scary, the fact taht kids would treat someone like that (which they will) or that the victim got revenge, albeit a supernatural one.

    I agree.  No internet in bedrooms.  Hell, I say no TV in their rooms either.  I even promote eating with your children every night.  Doesn't mean my son or daughter might not harass someone, or be harassed someday. 

    The main problem is there is a accountabiliity deficit in this country.  When you blame BeBo or MySpace, you take the accountablility away from all party's involved, even the victimm, who made that choice.

    Churches often rent their steeples to cell phone companies to offset costs.  People can recieve hate texts, pornographic content, and other nefarious thngs through their phones, from one of those transponders.  Is it the churches fault for propegating this information?  I'm sure the church wouldn't support or condone these things.

    Permalink posted 06/12/2008
  19. Dale says

    "'I'm not sure what influence these sites have - but if they are a method of expressing things, maybe they should be checked more,' said 45-year-old Sally Cope."

    Yes, they should be checked more ... checked more by the parents of those under 18 who use the sites. Why on earth did this mom wait until after her son's suicide to check what was posted and see for herself? Why on earth does the government now need to get involved?

    To echo Tyler's sentiments, we don't allow TV or computers in our kids' rooms, so if they want to use the Internet, they do it right in front of us, where we can see.

    It's not entirely fool-proof; we found out this year that our oldest son had opened two MySpace sites against my wife's wishes. So we acted quick and deleted them both, and that was that. Until he later opened a Facebook account. We later found out that he had opened the accounts when we had left him to babysit, so we lock the PC's when we leave so he cannot use them when we're away.

    It's tragic that bullying happens, but it does, and people react to it in the way they know best. The best thing we can do as parents is make sure we're aware of it when it happens, and communicate with our kids and give them the tools they need to overcome it. That responsibility does not leave us because the bullying happens online.

    Permalink posted 06/12/2008
  20. Scotch says

    Well, I blame adolescence. It's terrible, and we should ban it.

    In all seriousness, though, it's a tough time in some folks' life. I know it SUCKED for me.

    I don't blame the 'net, or the music, or even the assholes who bullied him. I blame an inability to cope with the world around him. No kid should feel that they have to resort to that, and no parent should ever outlive their child. Unfortunately in both cases, it happens.

    Permalink posted 06/13/2008
  21. Sturgell says

    No matter how you slice it, it's pretty damn tragic. I think it's safe to say MOG's heart goes out to the family.

    Permalink posted 06/27/2008

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