WHERE THE HOKEY POKEY "IS" WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT

Lola's Lilith Fair

Posted over 2 years ago
Today's post is dedicated to the single mothers-- particularly those who have been battered women and those who receive no child support. Who are the lone-parent families?85% are headed by the mother.60% have only one child-- only 10% have more than 2 children Only 52% of lone mothers are employed. Women's poverty rates rise from 16% before divorce to 43% after divorce.Just 19 percent of female headed lone parent families receive regular financial support from anyone outside their household. Female lone-parents have an especially hard time escaping a low-paying job and moving up to jobs that pay more. Almost 1/3 of men who had a low paying in 1993 had a better paying one 2 years later, but only 1 in 8 lone mothers had moved up into better paying jobs by 1995.Average income levels for lone-parent families are extremely low for all countries. However, countries in western Europe have reduced the poverty level of lone-parent families considerably through concerted government actions. Terrance Hunsley of the School of Policy Studies at Queen's University states that policies and schemes put in place in Canada in the last 20 years have failed to prevent or alleviate the problem associated with poverty and lone parenthood. cholaZoethrix: Single Mother. Battered women's shelter volunteer. Glory Defined: Single Mother. Battered women's shelter volunteer. Lola the Car Chick: Single Mother. Activist. Rob a bank, tip the boat, sell yourself, break the law!I'm fine, me too, we're fine and how are you?!

Comments (9)

  1. Wozniak says Another great post. These would be cool in some anthology. Luckily, I can just go to your page and scroll through consecutive pages to read back over them. Are there statistics that also break those numbers down by the womens' race?
    Permalink posted 03/08/2007
  2. Rawkkiddoh says Great post and this hits close to home for me. As a teacher, I see so many children come through my doors from single mother families. Pretty much everything you said is true with an exception of a few of the children I have taught over the last 10 years. Nothing is harder for me to hear when a child says they have no idea who their father is. These same children have an unconditional love for their mothers however, and it makes me happy to see that.
    Permalink posted 03/08/2007
  3. Lola the Car Chick says Obviously, women who have had to escape violent relationships, or who become pregnant by violent acts, are some of the least likely to receive child support.
    Permalink posted 03/08/2007
  4. Rawkkiddoh says Lola, thats not what I said and I in no way tried to insult you. When it comes from the children who say it, not from the mothers was the point I was trying to make. I said "Nothing is harder for me to hear when a child says they have no idea who their father is." I have heard this countless times while working in public education, and each time I want to ask questions about it. I did not mean to suggest the mothers of these children do not know who the father is, and I am sorry you took it that way
    Permalink posted 03/08/2007
  5. ivylander says In Rawk's defense, sometimes a mother who knows the identity of their child's father won't tell the child, often because she feels it's best for the child not to try and get in contact with an abusive person. This is the case with a very close friend of mine.
    Permalink posted 03/08/2007
  6. rollerskatejamms says The Lunachicks rock. I saw Theo's new band, Theo and the Skyscrapers, in Albany, NY. They were pretty good.
    Permalink posted 03/08/2007
  7. Lola the Car Chick says Rawk: Don’t worry about it. I’m not angry. I just wanted to make sure that the impression made about single mothers wouldn’t be that they are victims of their own promiscuity. Ivylander: Yes. It makes sense to not have a child in contact with a violent parent. Men who do not have contact will often refuse to pay support. And men who are in prison can not be made to pay support. In this way, the mother and the child are re-victimized by impoverishment and financial hardship. Financial insecurity makes women very vulnerable. They may return to abusive relationships, or wind up being re-abused in new relationships. Far more has to be done to relieve these women economically so that they do not have to make their decisions based on desperate circumstances. One aspect of this problem is that there is no day-care available for children over 11—despite the fact that there is two months of summer holidays during the summer months. There is also very little child-care available for women who need to work evenings, nights, and weekends. Obviously, this drives a lot of women out of the work—or makes it so they cannot possibly get ahead. I read a story recently about a woman in the States who, having no child-care, and fearing she would lose her job if she didn’t come in, chose to leave her children unattended. Before the end of her shift, the children accidentally set the house on fire and died. We also know that women who do not have adequate child-care are more likely to entrust their children to the care of boyfriends and strangers who may harm their children. These are only a few examples of the circumstances which conspire against the independence and success of single mothers.
    Permalink posted 03/08/2007
  8. Lola the Car Chick says I also want to acknowledge you men who have commenting on my page, that have been struggling to empathize with the issues I've raised, and who took up my challenge to Blog Against Sexism this week. I truly value your presence here. And I find it... fascinating, really... that both here, and on Flickr, that many of my strongest supporters and allies are men. I do appreciate you. I do.
    Permalink posted 03/08/2007

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