WE DO THE MASHED POTATO AND THE FUNKY CHICKEN

Spare the child - spoil the rod...

Posted over 2 years ago
So... I got some really unsettling news yesterday - bout my Da...As he is want to do - he tried to protect my Mum & I, saying that his cancer was caught in the very early stages - that his treatment would be minimal - we're now finding out that it was middle stages & treatment is going to be far more long term. I'm putting on the brave face for him - and of course for Mum - she's got enough worrying about him. But I am more than a little bit worried. It started when I asked him how long he'd have to stay away from my Godson as the treatment he's on keeps him from being within approx 6 feet from little people. He said he'd have to get back to me - that he thought it was either 2 months or 6 months depending on the radiation seeds they implanted. Well, they were the 6 month varietal so he will not be able to wish Chase a happy first birthday but from afar & I know that is killing him. It killed me to watch Chase's face the first time he saw my Da & realized he wouldn't be getting his cermonial boy walk with him round the block a few times where they talk and look at the trees & meet some of the folks on the street.But it mostly hurts knowing this is more serious than he initally let on or that he was initially informed & it's taking its toll on all of us. I've been running many emotions over the last two days. Thankfully I called up my best friend Po and talked with him about all of it - his Dad went through the same thing recently - so of course big little bro is my voice of clairity & sanity. He knows it will all work out and that my support group is quite large thanks to the MOG community - so I wanted to thank you upon thanking him !!! It's good to know I have friends everywhere who rock as much as my Dad does - thankfully not as poorly as Rod does (least in this song anyway) - personal opinion - but they guy lost me after Maggie May...That and the loss of some great MOGGERS has left me a little pFUNKED... so forgive me that slack... I'll be back and bringing the funk Jamiroquai style in the next few days... til then, I won't bring you Rod Stewart - that would be wrong, I will bring you something from Mike Patton who has his Mojo & keeps me running ;)played this one once - but it bears repeating !!!!

Comments (39)

  1. walkingthecow says excellent. love peeping tom. pushing the boundaries of popular music.
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  2. Dale says Oh Lizzie, that's just awful. I'm so sorry to hear that. You must forgive us men, we tend to be very prideful about going to the doctor. We feel we're acting weak. It's stupid, but true. Don't hate us, pity us.
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  3. dachmo says That situation with your dad is the same thing my mom is putting me through right now, different affliction though. Just remember to spend time with your dad, cancer is a very serious thing so I won't start blowing sunshine up your hoohaa to make you think it's not. My sister and I know that our family thing is going to be very different 8-10 years from now so we need to make things count now. There are still folks left in this community you could talk too whenever you need. It's funny how this Mogger thing has put a real damper on my mood these past few days. I wish people would stop talking about how things where better last year, six months ago because I think they're pretty good now. All things change you just have to roll with the punches if it's really worth it to you. I was just getting to know Kevin too. Oh well, we still have MultiP.
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  4. annieander says Damn Lizzie, I am so sorry to hear about your strife. I can't offer much then these few words...nothing to really sustain you, the downside of the online. Take heart and don't feel alone. You will be in my thoughts, as you have been, for a very long time. Be Well!
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  5. walkingthecow says sorry forgot to post about the awful news...my dad had stage 4 cancer of the colon. he survived it. medicine these days are very effective. you and your family are in my prayers.
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  6. Lizziegreeneyes says *cow walker:* yeah... anything the man does is gold to me !!! *PIMP:* as requested deleted - but your words permanent !!! & I got the number case I need it - THANKS !!!!!!!!! *Dale:* thing is he went to the doctor - good thing too - they did catch it fairly early - it wasn't the oncologist who would have found it - it was the regular doc who thought something was up... but he's being a brave male solider... and & am being his soldier's daughter & all is going as well as can be expected !!! *dachmo:* my hoohaa could use a little sun ;) Sorry - whenever I am a little sad or worried - the humor comes out even more so - and you thought yesterday I was MWI ;) I am with you - I miss folks from here I've known since I started - but I love y'all like extended family I'm fortunate to have all over the globe & consider myself very lucky to have met everyone here !!! They are good... life changes & makes us stronger & I am rolling like the Soul Coughing song !!! Promise :) Helps having a prettier clown to look at too ;P
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  7. annieander says I want to offer this too.
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  8. Lizziegreeneyes says *annie:* thanks - words are more comfort than you know... wish I could be more of one to him - he's been in a lot of pain - hardly out of bed all day & that's not like him... but his spirits are also high so that helps all of us I think !!! *walkingthecow:* prayers are a great thing & totally appreciated on my end as well as my father's - he was blown away by the outpouring from everyone before his surgery !!!! SO glad to hear your father kicked the arse of stage 4 colon cancer... a six letter word no one wants to hear !!! Thanks for the comforting words !!!
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  9. Lizziegreeneyes says *annie:* :) great offering - will play it for my Da tomorrow !!! Thanks to all ! Bed time for this girl... I am feelin the effects of the wine a little strongly at this stage !!! Thankfully I had a designated typer (ok - so I didn't, but if I really had to type in the open - I would have)
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  10. contrabandwidth says So sorry to hear this. Lost my pop when I was 15 to Leukemia, and in the end we were in Maine and he was in PA and he drove himself to the hospital with out asking for help from anyone. This still bothers me to this day, that way dad's can be all about not showing they are vulnerable or human. Sounds like he's trying to put up the front to protect you and you mom, but you really want him to just show you how he feel and stop being Dad. I feel for you, it really is difficult, and I pray for the best with him. Dark times are all around, not just on the mog-o-sphere.
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  11. ROCKNROLLPIMP says whoops drunky and your page for many hours plz delete it so i don't loook like TOO much like A DRUNK i love you babe holla k
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  12. Sam The Artist says well, when i told you about my sister, and you said we would be in your prayers, i think it worked. because she called yesterday saying that she didnt have cancer. so you best know ill be returning the fav! things will work out ladyliz. much much love.
    Permalink posted 10/13/2007
  13. bloodtea says Don't know what to say.. Been there a couple of years ago, and I know is tough. Hope everything turns out to be ok. Big hug.
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  14. TroyPowers says Hey, Lizzie Green-Green! Hang in there, baby. Trouble don't last always. I'd love to offer a whole lot of words to make you feel better...but this is just one of those situations if life you just gotta grind through. We all love you 'round here though, and are praying for you and your pops.
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  15. Lizziegreeneyes says *Tyler:* I can only say I +too+ wish your father had asked for help - I am thankful my Da is.... still a brave front, but one where he let's s help him & one where we're talking. *Keith:* Your heart overwhelms me !!! *Sam:* I am so relieved to hear that she's OK !!! Thank you !!! *bloodtea:* I can't even tell you what Ben Harper does for me when I am feeling sad/down - a perfect selection. But your words are even more of a comfort. *Troy:* Will do !!! Those words do make me feel better :) Thanks darlin !!!
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  16. ROCKNROLLPIMP says i am sooooo thinkin bout you this am believe that AND i love you BELIEVE THAT K
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  17. Lizziegreeneyes says *Keith:* I believe & right back at you !!!
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  18. ivylander says Lizzie, we will keep up the prayers for as long as it takes. We have been through this with Mrs. Ivylander, and it is scary as hell. But I am here to tell you that you'll come through.
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  19. summer eyes says gah, im so sorry that you have to go through this, but everyone here is praying and wishing for the best.
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  20. amber says My sister started chemo last Tuesday. I know what you are dealing with, like so many of our MOG compatriots. And just like them, I send you my thoughts, love and good wishes. smooches and big ole squishy hugs a
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  21. meko says Lizzi, I am so sorry, I lost my brother to lung cancer but we lost him due to the dr. did not catch it in time, He kept telling my brother it was only agina and i told my brother to get another openion but it was to late! but in your dads case i am sure he will be all right. May god bless you and your dad with LUV.
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  22. Lizziegreeneyes says *Bill:* Means the world coming from you - my Phellow Philly Cheesesteak lover & of all things Mann/Costello :) and of course eating with our hands !!! *summer eyes:* Thank you ever so !!! *amber:* Thanks sis !!! I am sending those same good vibes back to you for your sister as well !!! Any sister of yours is a sister of mine as well - my extended MOGily means the world to me !!! xoxo *meko:* I am so sorry for your troubles (an Irish saying I used to hear my Pap say). Thanks for your kind words - ::BIG HUGS::
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  23. FastRMacR says Thinking about you Lizzie - wishing you and yours well. o:-) (that's an emoticon with a halo - prayers and happy vibes) Just so you know about it...check into this: "www.essiacinfo.org":http://www.essiacinfo.org/essiac.html ...my own Ma has made this via apothecary and I've literally seen it change things to _vita felice_. My Best Regards :-)
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  24. meko says From one IRISH Person to another, GOD LOVE YA.
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  25. Tallpo says No matter how long it take your father to recover - you have friends and family to lean on. That being said - the best thing for you to do is be strong for your father and Mother - (my adopted parents) I'm sure its even harder on them. : )
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  26. Lizziegreeneyes says Thanks *meko* & you know I will *Po* specially since I know I can lean on you every now and again - THANKS AGAIN for LAST NIGHT - !!! Helped immeasurably !!! Give some love & hugs to the boys & K for me !!!
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  27. Anna says Oh Lizzie Lizzie. Sorry to hear that. My parents hide stuff from me all the time for the same reasons. But we are tough cookies! Always here for ya, your Greek sister.
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  28. Lizziegreeneyes says *Anna:* we are, aren't we !!! Thanks GSister (also stands for Gorgeous & Grrrrrreat) ;*
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  29. darmuzz says Lizzie, sorry to hear this. It sounds like your family is already on track to being more honest with each other. Kind of a "smile through the tears" thing. Hope you can find a nice balance between being strong when you need to, and getting your feelings out when you need to.
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  30. Lizziegreeneyes says *darmuzz:* I am one emotional girl - not quite Whitney Houston though ;) I am definitely trying to walk that line & thankfully - I have my friends/family & MOG friends who are ALL family in my book & the support I've received from all y'all has been such a blessing to me !!! I am a very lucky girl !!!
    Permalink posted 10/14/2007
  31. FluxCapacitor says I went through the same thing last year with somebody very close, radiation, the whole works...because people tend to dismiss the fears and the shock gets pushed deep down, which can come out in all sorts of strange ways down the line, so take care of yourself too...thankfully everything worked out for us...and I'm hoping everything will be the same for you and your Da...Colin
    Permalink posted 10/15/2007
  32. Strawberry Street says Like everyone I am sending you positive thoughts and most importantly HOPE. You have a strong support on here and everyone loves you and wishes the best. peace xx
    Permalink posted 10/15/2007
  33. Lizziegreeneyes says *Colin:* Thanks for your most kind thoughts & words... it isn't easy - but I will take care of myself so as to be there for the rest of my clan :) *Strawberry Street:* THANKS !!! The support I've found here - well it's not lost on me !!! I am a fortunate MOGGER :)
    Permalink posted 10/15/2007
  34. goodmusiconly says Oh, Lizzie, I am so sorry honey. That is jarring news indeed - to say the least. I've been in your shoes on this one, and I understand how scared you feel. I'm getting here late, and I think everyone has chimed in with the right advice ... but might I just add that it's times like this we realize how important it is to be there for the people we love. I know you'll be there for your da, but also know that I am here for you if you need ANYthing at all. Love and hugs, darling. xo
    Permalink posted 10/15/2007
  35. Lizziegreeneyes says *Erin:* Thank you sis !!! I will continue to make being there for my family my priority & am ever thankful for my friends & MOGamily !!!
    Permalink posted 10/15/2007
  36. Lizziegreeneyes says *SunnyD:* You rock - SERIOUSLY - that was hysterical !!! Thanks girlie !!! One day at a time... he's doing better every day :)
    Permalink posted 10/18/2007
  37. HelenMarie says GIRL you are the queen of rock! Oh and I think you know, but I love that Mojo! Peace sweet!
    Permalink posted 10/18/2007
  38. 2Serenity says My heart is with you, Lizzie. Just know you got us here if you need to vent or scream. I have venting sessions ALL over the internet. Even if no one listens it feels good to get things off your chest! Hang in there kiddo!
    Permalink posted 10/19/2007

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